Avoid Failing by making a safety net.

I had a customer talk to me today, he mentioned that at his age, every day he woke up was a blessing.

I was surprised by him saying that- death is something I’m, admittedly, not all that comfortable with.

I was also surprised by my shock at his statement. It’s TRUE. Every day that we wake up, is another day that we can live and love. This is no different whether you’re 16 or 61.

I started telling the guy about Steve Jobs commencement speech to Stanford. I’ll link it below.

One of his points is about death, and the fact that Steve had pancreatic cancer and was going to die soon constantly reminded him that he has nothing to lose.

What do you have to lose? What are the consequences of not trying?

Failing sucks.

It’s really easy to do everything we can to avoid failing. Even if it means inaction, but we don’t grow from inaction.

So here’s what we do.

Imagine you failed.

Do you have that picture in your mind? … Good.

How do you respond? What steps do you take to make sure your finances stay in order? Can you still pay your bills? How can you repair your reputation?

Think through these responses. It’s very important. You’re clarifying the unknown ahead of time!

Now that you’ve thought through how you would respond if you failed, and you survived, go make something happen because you’ll be just fine.

 

A fresh start.

 

I’ve been thinking a bunch about what I want this web space to be.

There have been a lot of different things that I’ve wanted to do with the site: book reviews, posting stories, sharing goals and accountability towards those goals, web design highlights, inspiring stuff.

A lot of different things.

With July’s Hustle Month came a new project from me. I called it Once a Weekly. At the time of the project’s first issue, there was a lot of potential for it to grow into something huge! I loved the idea and where it could go, but I found it really creatively draining to edit down the posts to something usable and then provide a few thoughts about it.

I loved the idea of bringing people value from having all of these content gems found in one place. But I think I want to go about it differently from now on.

Once a Weekly was published on a sub domain of my site, but I wasn’t linking to it from my site, so any visitors to the site weren’t finding the things into which I was currently investing my energy. I want to simplify that. I still plan to look for great content, but I want to do it over a period of time throughout the week. If you want to make sure you don’t miss any of it, definitely go subscribe at my rss feed.

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Oh, and another thing, I’ve been starting a small habit of drawing/sketching daily. I plan on posting a picture daily. You can find that on the sketches page.

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I think with this new freer structure, I’ll find more energy to actually produce great things for you all. This site provides a vital role in that!

Dreams

dreams are interesting things.
while you’re sleeping, you dream, and if you wake up during one(alarm or otherwise) you long for nothing other than to return to that dream.
When I hit the snooze button in the morning, I think one of the reasons i’m so compelled to hit the snooze is because there’s some part of me that wants to return to that dream.
some part of me that wants to return to an interesting story.
some part of me that thinks that’s the better place to be.
But it’s not!
It’s not even real.
How can we make it so the world we wake up to has just as much action as the world we visit when we dream?

When I dream, sometimes the dreams make perfect sense.
Other times, I may as well have been on drugs. But I’ll ignore those dreams!
The ones that make perfect sense, though, those ones can be a reality.

What can I do to make awake life as engaging as asleep life?

1) be working towards my awake dreams
I have things I want to be doing with my life. perhaps too many things, but another day of playing video games won’t get me any closer to making those things happen.
2) dive into meaningful relationships.
are the people around you encouraging you to be better than you were yesterday?
do they challenge you?
will they get you where you need to be going?
3) be willing to do something crazy. — because dreams can get crazy
I’ve gotten into a slump where I’ve found myself hesitant to try new things.
It sucks to say that.
But often times, I’ll resist hanging out with some new people.
Or be afraid to look for new work.
Or be ok with doing another day of the same thing.
The dreams that are the most exciting are the ones where you’re doing something crazy. The life that’s most exciting is the one where you’re doing something crazy.

one of the last dreams I had was one where I was The Bachelor. You know… from the TV show. I’ll admit, I’ve watched enough of this show to have detailed dreams about it. I was The Bachelor, and I was down to the final three girls. But as I went to start choosing who my final two would be, I realized that I didn’t know any of them. I literally had no memory of my relationships with any of the three. So I started asking people around me, “who makes me feel most alive” “who makes me seem most myself” Pretty much all answers pointed towards this one girl. And, for what it’s worth, she was the only one of the three that I could recognize from the real world.
I don’t remember any of the rest of the dream. I was woken by an alarm clock to which I very promptly hit snooze: trying to return to something interesting.

As I stop and think, there are parts of this dream that don’t make sense. Why was I on the bachelor? how did I not know any of these girls? But I loved the questions I was asking, they are the ones that I could use as a social filter even in the awake-world.

What do you think?

For now, we continue

I’m still reworking what I want to do with the website.

Actually, my friend Brian, of embracerefrain.com, mentioned while we were building a website for our web company that my site is in a constant state of change and development.

He’s right.

We’ll get there guys, don’t worry.

Until I get things going over here, i’ll keep plugging away with the once a weekly project- this weeks issue has been published.

http://magazine.danhefferan.com/issue-5/

enjoy.